My Biggest Wedding Regret

We all have regrets. Maybe you regret having bangs back in 2007 like I did or maybe you regret thinking that black eyeliner was also an okay substitute as an eyebrow pencil


Don’t get me wrong - I loved every second of my wedding. From creating the tree slice centerpieces from my grandparents ranch to writing my wedding vows, wedding planning was a very positive experience for me and Jacob. 


However - I wouldn’t say that my wedding was “perfect” by any means.


Looking back, I don’t know how even half of the things that we needed actually happened. Knowing what I know now, I constantly ask myself, “who cut and served our wedding cake?” or “who turned down the lights for our first dance?” and the obviously most important question “Who kept the bathrooms clean throughout the night?” 


The obvious answer is that ultimately I didn’t notice either way, but my mother sure did. 


One of my favorite moments of my wedding day - the small peaceful moment before the craziness of the wedding day!

One of my favorite moments of my wedding day - the small peaceful moment before the craziness of the wedding day!

Sweet, Type-A+ Lisa ran back and forth between the kitchen, talking with servers, calling the venue manager if they needed something, and telling my bridal party what they could help with the entire day of my wedding. 


I didn’t know it at the time, but my mom put in W-E-R-K on my wedding day to make sure everything went smoothly.


But the sad thing is, I don’t remember getting to be with her that much on the wedding day itself. She was so busy working and prepping that we didn’t get the quiet, relaxed moments I had thought came naturally on the wedding day.


My biggest wedding regret was not getting to spend as much time as I wanted to with my mom on my wedding day. 


This would have been an easily avoidable had we spent the extra money to bring on a coordinator to take care of all those small details my mom was worried about on the big day. But, at the time I didn’t know what I didn’t know - I was too busy partying on the dance floor!


Fun Fact: I required that my DJ play the chicken dance just so I could dance with all our little cousins!

Fun Fact: I required that my DJ play the chicken dance just so I could dance with all our little cousins!

I didn’t realize that a coordinator would have taken care of those small details and let my mom relax and come upstairs to my bridal suite hours earlier to help everyone get ready. I didn’t realize that a coordinator would have made sure my parents ate dinner instead of playing host and hostess to all of our guests, getting them food and drinks, showing people where to sit and greeting families as they came in. 


In hindsight, everything about my wedding was amazing and 100% reflective of Jacob and me, and I have my parents to thank for that. But also in hindsight, had I done anything differently, I would have gotten a coordinator STAT to help smooth out all the wrinkles that my mother took care of for me.