Let’s be real. No one actually has it figured out. We live in a world where pretending like we know what we’re doing all the time is the expected. I don’t know about you, but I couldn’t tell you how many hours a week I spend mindlessly scrolling through people’s insta stories getting more and more jealous of their lives.
I see women who are killing it in their business and posting success stories, women who look super fit and are having a grand time at the beach, I see women who are taking selfies with their super cute kids, and I can’t help but think, “Why can’t that be me?”
While my head tells me the logical answer, “these are the highlights of every person’s life – it doesn’t look like this all the time.” My heart screams overhead saying, “Blah, blah, blah yeah, but their highlights look better/more frequent/more fun than anything I could ever do.”
Does anyone have that problem? Where your head and heart aren’t speaking the same words, leaving you conflicted, confused and sometimes, in tears?
*raises both hands in the air*
I find myself in this situation more often than not. I covet what others have instead of celebrating their successes – it’s bad y’all.
“The Comparison Plague” haunts many of my thoughts and I frequently find myself desiring to have something that someone else has, whether that’s the cute kid, the fit bod, the dream vacation, or the nice house. We think that the highlights that everyone shows us on social media are what will make us feel better about ourselves.
I’m all about #RealTalk, so let me be the first to tell you that I never want you to feel that way about Weddings By Weaver. I’ll be the first to say, we don’t have it all together, we continually are improving, and we are 95% of the time figuring life out as we go. We want you to know that the lowest moments are the REALEST moments in your life and instead of hiding those in a closet, scared about showcasing our true emotions, scars and hard to love tendencies, we want to celebrate them with you.
For instance, did anyone follow through my insta’s during my vacation to Disney? You may have seen the highlights, which were frequent because we had an AMAZING trip, but I hope you also noticed my absolutely breathtaking, gorgeous, 0-blemish photo of my getting ready the day we left.
(If you missed it, check out the photo at the start of this blog again).
Gorgeous right? To be honest, I look like that 80% of the time, I view “normal clothes” as something only necessary if you’re leaving the house for a long period of time.
That’s the #RealMe. No makeup, possibly a bra on (but honestly kinda questionable), unshaved legs, and crazy, crazy hair.
The things that make this life so beautiful aren’t the moments where we are at the top of our mountains, in our dream bod, with our dream house, dream job, dream husband etc. They are the moments in between where we learn more about ourselves.
The moments that make us the beautiful humans we are where we slowly build up our metaphorical brick houses, brick by brick, moment by moment, with rough mortar in between, helping stick each moment, each brick together to create a safe, sturdy building.
They may not be pretty, enviable, or easy, but they make us human – and I don’t know about you, but I think those unique moments in every person’s life are the real “highlights” of life, don’t you?
Can I challenge you this week? It might be a little scary, but I’d LOVE to see your #RealMe photos up on social media, those moments that aren’t the highlights, but the every day, beautiful moments that make you – YOU.
I want to celebrate my tribe – you gorgeous, unique, hard working women – you are worth celebrating so let’s get to it.